How Self-Doubt Sabotages Motherhood Plus a Simple 3-Step Solution Every Mom Needs
Dec 23, 2024
Parenting Teen Boys: How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Trust Your Intuition as a Mom
Are you stuck in a spiral of self-doubt? Wondering if you really know how to parent your teenage son? Here’s the truth: you already know more than you think. Your brain is a powerful problem-solving machine — and with the right questions, you can unlock your inner wisdom, find peace, and make parenting more enjoyable.
If you’re ready to stop just surviving and start thriving in motherhood, keep reading.
Why “I Don’t Know” Is Killing Your Confidence (And Your Parenting)
When your mind repeats “I don’t know what I’m doing,” or “I don’t know how to help him,” it’s not just a little negative self-talk — it’s creating real neural roadblocks. Your brain, designed to solve problems, gets stuck and starts to shut down.
This mental loop can lead to:
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Avoiding tough conversations
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Nagging more out of frustration
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Desperately needing your son to change so you feel better
Sound familiar? That’s survival mode — not thriving mode.
The Secret to Tapping Into Your Parenting Wisdom: Slow Down and Reflect
Here’s the counterintuitive truth: Sometimes, slowing down is the fastest way forward. You don’t need a month at the spa (although, hey, wouldn’t that be nice). You just need 30 minutes — yes, everyone can find 30 minutes — to ask yourself three simple, powerful questions.
These questions will help you:
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Stop the “I don’t knows”
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Gain clarity
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Reconnect with your unique, intuitive parenting style
The Three Game-Changing Questions to Ask Yourself
1. What is working well?
Start with the positive. Maybe it’s your morning routine, a quick chat at dinner, or that five-minute moment before bedtime. Research shows recognizing wins boosts motivation and sharpens problem-solving skills — exactly what you need as a mom.
2. What’s not working well?
Get honest — without judgment. Every family has sticking points. Maybe it’s getting everyone out the door on time or coordinating schedules. Identify what’s tripping you up so you can address it.
3. What am I willing to let go of?
This one’s tough. Could you let go of worry, guilt, or suspicion? For me, letting go of suspicion was life-changing. I stopped scanning for mistakes and started celebrating the good. What weight can you drop to create space for solutions?
Real-Life Mom Moment: How Slowing Down Saved Our Sanity
When our fifth son was a baby, he cried nonstop for six months. With four other kids and endless sleepless nights, my husband and I were at a breaking point.
Slowing down felt impossible — but it was exactly what we needed.
By asking those three questions, we found a few small things working well (teamwork, basic routines) and big things not working (lack of sleep). I let go of guilt for not “doing it all,” and together we rearranged our nights and mornings so everyone got some rest.
That simple shift kept our family afloat — and it came from intentional reflection, not frantic survival.
Your Homework: Start Chewing on These Questions Today
You don’t need to overhaul everything at once. Take small moments — five or thirty minutes here and there — to reflect honestly on:
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What’s working well for your family?
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What’s causing frustration or pain?
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What can you release to make space for peace?
Doing more of what works, less of what doesn’t, and letting go of what holds you back is how you tap into your inner wisdom and stop the “I don’t knows.”
Join a Tribe of Moms Who Get It
Parenting teenage boys isn’t easy — but it’s easier when you’re not alone. Join my free private Facebook group for moms raising teenage boys, where we share wins, struggles, and support each other.
Remember, Mom: You’re Doing Better Than You Think
You have an incredible intuition and a brain wired for solutions. Trust yourself, slow down, and lean into the wisdom you already have.
You’re more capable — and more connected — than you realize.
You’ve got this.
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